Starting your marriage with expert help and the benefits of premarital counseling can help you prepare for a stable and happy life together.
This video will show you the top 5 benefits of premarital counseling and an exclusive, FREE benefit for our clients.
Benefit #1 Prevent Problems
Wouldn’t it be nice to skip the fight and go straight to the resolution? Instead of “avoiding” problems, you can prevent them by learning how to handle issues and differences in a proactive way. Counseling teaches you how to become aware of your choices. This helps you gain control of your words and actions.
- The way you handle issues can become the solution (instead of a problem).
- Instead of avoiding issues, you can learn to manage issues to prevent problems.
- Building “Choice Awareness” can teach you proactive ways to think and respond.
- Premarital counseling can teach you how to recognize issues and manage conflict in a proactive, healthy way.
- Marriage counselors are more effective than clergy because they know common causes for problems for a marriage. Counselors also know how to help clients become their best, so they can become a better spouse. They can guide you to recognize warning signs for potential issues.
Benefit #2 Establish Healthy Patterns of Communication, Behavior, and Conflict Resolution
“We’re having problems with communicating!” This is a common reason married couples need help. Good news—you can learn to keep fighting or withdrawing from becoming the norm.
- Contempt and/or resentment are common when bad patterns continue for too long.
- Your differences create a chance to grow your relationship.
- Premarital counseling can teach you how to choose to respond, not react, to resolve conflict.
Benefit# 3 Establish Healthy Boundaries:
When a couple uses healthy boundaries, it can help to prevent misunderstandings and hurt feelings. It’s also easier to maintain healthy patterns of communication. To learn more about how to boundaries, our 3-part video and blog series on defining, setting, and enforcing boundaries starts here: https://crossroadsindy.com/counseling-and-mental-health-articles/couples-and-marriage/boundaries-definition-and-types-of-boundaries
- Take responsibility for your feelings and behavior. Realize you aren’t responsible for the other person’s feelings.
- Boundaries aren’t a “wall” to keep the other person out—it keeps the best parts in your relationship.
- Helps prevent problems and improve communication.
Benefit #4 Discuss Expectations
Reduce the risk of unspoken or unmet needs. Your counselor can help you discuss your expectations, values, plans, and goals. This is an ideal time and chance to resolve this issue. Sooner is better than later. Later is often too late!
- Unspoken and unmet needs are common roots of resentment and cause for affairs.
- It’s easier to keep expectations realistic by talking about them.
- Getting these unspoken needs out in the open exposes how irrational and unrealistic they are.
Benefit #5 Save Time and Money
Premarital counseling is one of the best examples of an ounce of prevention being worth a pound of cure.
- It’s a very small investment, and a great value since it takes fewer sessions.
- It takes less time to build a solid foundation with expert help than it takes to repair
*BONUS* Benefit #6 FREE Assessments for Faster Results
This is an exclusive, FREE benefit for our clients.
- If you keep making the same mistakes or fighting about the same things, out assessments can make our guidance even more effective.
- Reveals issues in the way you behave and interact.
- Helps clients understand their future spouses more quickly, in fewer sessions.
- A client may see the symptom, but not know the root cause of their problems.
CrossRoads offers premarital counseling, marriage and family counseling, career counseling, and more. Call us at (317) 842-8881 to schedule an appointment.