Irrational Idea# 10
“It’s a disaster if the perfect solution to all of my problems isn’t found.”
Perfectionism may seem to be a helpful behavior; we all want to be our best. But perfectionism limits us and makes us fearful of mistakes which could be valuable learning experiences.
- There is no absolute truth or solution that works for all people—for all problems in the world at this time.
- Perfectionism does not create solutions; it is a limiting behavior which narrows down all possible solutions in the effort to do things perfectly. Since nothing is perfect, it only prevents solutions from being found.
- Since we cannot be certain of anything beyond ourselves, the quest for certainty raises false expectations and constant anxiety.
Rational idea: “We might not know the perfect way to fix everything, but we can work to find the best way.”
- To err is human; be willing to try various plans and seeks new solutions, learning from mistakes.
- Extreme plans are often unworkable and will likely not be accepted or adopted by others.
- Accept the need to compromise and makes decisions on time without laboring over every detail in a controlling manner like a perfectionist.
For a happy and emotionally healthy life, contact CrossRoads for counseling at 317-842-8881 if you are in the Central Indiana area. This series was inspired by and sourced from “A Guide to Rational Living” by Albert Ellis and Robert Harper.